In our situation, Cindy is an extremely effective spanker. Our journey in F/M spanking began like most people I believe very tentatively. The wife loves her husband, and cannot imagine why she would want to make him suffer. Thus, spanking is simply unfathomable.
More than 20 years later, Cindy is comfortable, and quite happy to spank me when she thinks it is deserved, or if I ask for stress relief.
2. Her spankings are more focused.She makes certain that my whole bottom is bright red, with that tell tale grey in the middle of each cheek.
My usual position is bare bottomed on top of pillows, at the corner of the bed so that one leg is on each side of the bed. This truly opens me up for being spanked thoroughly. She frequently uses the short tawse, and spanks first from one side on one cheek, and then from the other side on the other cheek. This causes the tawse end to spank the inner parts of the crease between my buttocks. That area has been bright red many times, as almsot every spank reaches it.
In addition, she uses it on the crease between the bottom of my buttocks and the top of my thighs.
3. When upset, she usually goes upstairs, and then calls out: "Please come upstairs". Those words mean a signficant spanking! On these occasions she informs me to get both the bath brush and the tawse (something wooden and something leather)
4. If bothered by something I did while helping to make a meal or cleaning up in the kitchen, she picks up a wooden spoon and says bare your bottom. I immediately respond and also bend over the counter.
5. It is a given that before going out to visit friends, I am spanked. There has never been a reason to spank me when we get home.
6. Lastly, as normal, I was spanked yesterday, and my bottom is still sore sitting and typing this post while on a padded chair.
PS: We never do hand spankings. We started but it proved to be ineffective, and also Cindy hurt her finger badly once, ending forever hand spankings
so, the topic for today
Has your wife learned to give more effective spankings?
Two requests: do you know of an inexpensive to reasonably priced site to purchase a long tawse,
and a whippy cane?
Earlier in our spanking life, both were terrible items that wrapped onto my side from Cindy's inexperience, and we threw them away. Cindy being an experienced spanker, they would be (un)welcome but needed items for Cindy to have.
or until then, 5 minutes none stop with a bath brush!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
bottoms up
Red
My wife definitely is an effective spanker. But, unlike your situation, she didn't really start out as tentative. The very first DD spanking she gave me was not effective, but it was because neither of us knew what we were doing or what to expect. The lack of effectiveness was more about the choice of tools (a hairbrush that wasn't particularly heavy or hard) and the position (OTK). Very soon after starting, we switched to standing-up sessions with a fraternity-style paddle, and sometimes heavy leather straps. It was surprising to me just how little she was concerned about hurting me "too much", from almost the very beginning. Some of the very early sessions with the paddle left me very badly bruised, and it didn't seem to bother her at all.
ReplyDeleteSeveral years later, we tried OTK again, and it is now her, and my, preferred position, and the bath brush became her "go to" instrument, to the exclusion of almost everything else.
We do have a heavy leather paddle (a gift from Aunt Kay's husband) that is similar to the tawse as you describe it with respect to finding its way into the crack between your buttocks, or wrapping around to hit the tender parts of the hip. It is a very different kind of pain from the bath brush, but almost as effective.
Regarding implement choices, I know a good source for a tawse, but it's not cheap, unfortunately. The London Tanners is by far my favorite place for leather instruments, but they are pricey.
I forgot to add, we don't do hand spankings either. A few weeks back, as I was recovering from a tailbone injury, I suggested we might start with a hand spanking to test whether I was healed enough to go back to DD. She rejected the idea entirely, asking, "Why would I want to hurt my hand?"
DeleteCindy would be upset with bruises. I have priced on the London tanners, but extremely expensive. We do not do hand spankngs because they are both ineffective, and could hurt the spankers hand. The bath brush is a constant in our house.
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My wife/mommy has, and it began when I was told I would call her Mommy when I'm a naughty little boy and going to get a spanking. She has had me masturbate a couple of times to insure the spanking hurts from the first spank. I have been told to stand, pants and underpants around my ankles, scolding, and it does not matter if someone drops in. I hate this the most, after a spanking, no matter time of day to put my pajamas on. I will begoing to bed early, a bedtime spanking and prior to the spanking a bath like a little boy gets. She went from the hairbrush to the bathbrush, her mother gave her as a present. There is mouth washing if I use naughty words. She will spank me away from home. Jack
ReplyDeleteRather extensive rules to folow in a spanknig. Thnaksfor sharing
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I married a woman who was taught by her Mother that marriage is more than being a wife, it is the woman who binds the marriage. My wife/mommy told me after that first spanking you have met your match. She smiled and I always remember the smile and said males think they know the female, your going to learn first hand, males have no clue. Rules are there for a reason, and our marriage is strong, our sex life is great, and so when it comes to a spanking I do as told, I can complain and and the spanking will last longer and facing the wall longer. My wife/mommy reminds me that she is my best friend, my wife, and most important a Mommy when her husbands acts like a naughty little boy. Most wives do nothing, accept, my wife/mommy and the bath brush do the talking. Jack
DeleteThe best taws you will find when you search the site of the London Tanners. We bought there a boudoir paddle. It's not cheap but it will be a purchase for a lifetime. A reliable firm. John.
ReplyDeletethanks John. Hope Danielle and you are well. Red
ReplyDeleteShe has become a very effective spanker. When we started our journey into DD, I had her come with me to watch a pro spank me, and she gave her some valuable tips on method and attitude. Sometimes, I wish she would push my limits a little more than she does, but I don't want to "top from the bottom" so I seldom give any suggestions. However, I recently let her know that I thought that my spankings would be more effective if they were non stop and lasted at least 5 minutes, and she took my suggestions to heart.
ReplyDeleteTopping from the bottom is always a difficult line to manage. Are you meaning she is ineffective, are you telling her what to do, but phrasing in a way to encourage her effectiveness is usually well received. Lasting five minutes non-stop is way beyond what Cindy does. Are they leisurely with commentary of what you should be doing, or intense non-stop. If non-stop, how does she last 5 minutes.
DeleteCindy has become more effective, and I am not certain of practice makes perfect, or evaulating my eactions has had her spank longer and harder. Probably a bit of both.
Red
The most common experience seems to be that it takes a wife or girlfriend a little time to learn how to spank effectively. That, however, has not been my experience. Both my wife and a previous girlfriend seemed to have an instinctive understanding of spanking and were unafraid to spank hard. In addition, in another not quite DD relationship, she also knew how to spank and actually broke a paddle once ( it split) while spanking me. So, some women at least do approach what could almost be called a “natural,” warming the male bum.
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I agree as I have said my wife embrasses being a woman and truly knows her role is a marriage. What she has going for her is her Mother taught her. Let's me state we have a strong marriage, a good sex life, and truly love one another. But from the beginning she let me know how she was brought up and would take charge in the marriage. She has never broken a paddle spanking me, she uses a bath brush. Once you get off her lap, you do feel like a naughty little boy, dancing around rubbing a very well spanked bottom. Her look, her tone of voice, saids it all. I have learned not to question her, to do as told. Spankings will not only happen at home but away from home. She will let others know that she spanks her husband or as she like to say her naughty little boy. The first time I was spanked with my mother-in-law present she did not pull down the underpants. After several spanks with the bath brush, her mother said pull down the underpants, a spanking is done on the bare bottom dear and they came down and I had kicked off my pants and she took them off and on the floor they went. So if you find such a woman, best do as told. Jack
DeleteIn response to Alan: Have you ever asked your wife about her spanking past. Was she spanked previously? Did she see someone being spanked? (How often) I think that as women consider themself equal (which i have always agreed with), they start to enjoy being able to spank their partner when the partner is being unreasonable or even worse. You are fortunate to find such a woman.
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Jack: Happy it works for both of you! bottoms up Red
ReplyDeleteSpeaking of "tawses" . . .
ReplyDeleteWhile I greatly admire much of the work of "London Tanners," I personally think their tawses are somewhat on the light side. By standard terminology (John Dick, & Co.), a tawse of 5 mm thickness would be considered a "ML" (medium light).
(Similarly, a tawse of 6-8 mm would be an "M" (medium); 10-12mm "H" (heavy); and 14-16mm "XH" (extra heavy). John Dick, & Co. do make true "M"s and "H"s, and will accept special orders for "laminated" "XH"s. The John Dick tawses were the original and truly the very best, but you will spend at least ~US$200-220 for a true "M" or "H".)
If you are looking for reasonable quality in a true "H", you might consider the seller "Bondage Robot" on Etsy. He/She does some excellent work, at about half the price you will spend to import one from the UK:
www.etsy.com/shop/BondageRobot?
Be careful what you wish for; even 6mm of hard, stiff leather is INTENSE!
Sorry about the typo. That last reference to BondageRobot should have read:
ReplyDelete"If you are looking for reasonable quality in a true "M".
His/Her two models of tawses are typically 6-7mm.