Do you sometimes ask to be spanked?

In a healthy marriage, spanking, at least for us, is an outlet to make our marriage far more satisfying and loving. I am reasonably certain this is not the average married person's idea of what happens in a marriage.

I sometimes ask to be spanked, and Cindy almost always spanks me immediately, or later that day. I cannot remember any time that I have to wait until the next day.

Why do I ask to be spanked?

1. If I start getting stressed, I find that the stress builds. I tend to focus on the reason, and do not draw back into thinking id it is really important in my life.

One stressor is:

Reading the news too often, and knowing how one sided the media in Canada in favor of the current Liberal government. They never disagree with the governmenbt policy, nor question the accuracy of totally false statements made by Prime Minister Carney. I could give you so many examples,but this is not the place. Equally stressing, is the negative press about President Trump, never mentioning any accomplishments of his government.

However, no one is here to read about my stress.

When I find myself going down the 'rabbit hole', I ask Cindy to spank me, and help me back into the happiness that we have in life. We have our health, we travel frequently, our family is healthy and enjoying life, and all are prosperous. We have enough money to live on, and thus I always tip over generously, simply making the recipient a little happier for the moment. 

Example $5 but now usually $10 for the person who cleans the room in whatever hotel chain we are staying at, and I do this each day of the stay. If the front desk asks if we need to have the room cleaned daily, I say yes, with the proviso that it creates employment, and gives me a chance to tip the cleaner.

Eliminating stress

Cindy is almost always happy while spanking me, specially if I asked to be spanked. No need for her to worry that she is maybe overreacting to something, or that she might have caused my behavior. She never spanks when angry, but waits until the anger has subsided. 

The happiness is evident also the next day.

2. If I am doing okay, but have not been spanked for a few weeks, a sort of edginess, and/or grumpiness arises in me, that is best solved by a spanking. I do know that it will be an effective spanking!

Cindy is usually aware of my becoming grumpy, and asks do you need to be spanked. That question, sometimes ends the grumpiness, but sometimes I say : Yes, it would help solve things, and she is very happy to help!.

3, Self awareness: When I know I have done something that will result in a spanking, I tell Cindy about it instead of feeling guilty, and wondering if she will find out.

These spankings might be much more intense, although almost all of my spankings are intense.

 The crease between the bottom of the cheeks and the top of legs is getting a significant spanking

So, for your consideration:

Have you ever asked your wife to spank you?

If you answered yes, please explain the reason(s) where you might ask to be spanked.

bottoms up

Red

Home again

We had a fabulous vacation, visiting many National Parks and /national Monuments in the USA. 

I will get back to posting ina few days, after groceries, paying bills, doing laundry, cutting the grass, and a few other sundry things.

Wjen caught up, I will resond to readers who have commented

bottoms up

Red

Are you spanked before going to an event(warning/stress relief)

We have for many years now used a preventative spanking to remind me of a few things before going.

1. Do not drink too much, as when you do you get argumentative and unpleasant to be with.

2. Remeber to talk less and llisten more, even if the person never asks about you and only talks about themselves or their interests.

3. Be happy. We are there to have a good time

4. Avoid any political discussion, as you are either talknig tot he converted, or you are not ever going to convince someone to change an opinion. 

5. Have fun!

This was done at my request, and if Cindy forgets, I ask her for a spanking before leaving, and long enough beforehand so she is not rushed getting ready.

As it should be!

I find that if I start to get frustrated, I can still feel my sore bottom and let the mood slide.

bottoms up

Red

Are you a member of any spanking site containing pictures/text of spankings

Early, early internet, I did join one site for a month, clicking on many pictures of women spanking men, and saving them to my computer.

Tumblr existed back then, but i did not know much about it, so this was the only way to see photos and videos, besides the freebies as a come on to join the site.

as she thought to herself, this spanking I give him I am really going to enjoy

Now, the internet is full of sites with men being spanked by women, so although I still save photos to my desktop, the main purpose is to reuse them in posts here or on tumblr.

Dear, this will be a severe spanking for what you did

I have no idea why people still join these sites, but obviously some people still do. 

    Could it be fear of things stored on their computer being found, as opposed to only accessing online then discnnecting from the site.

    Could it be that they really love a spanker, and like watching videos of her giving spankings.    

I would love her to spank me

Your thoughts on why they are still so many for pay sites?

bottoms up

Red

Do you have a maintenance spanking routine in your relationship?

In the normal flow of everyday life, even in a spanking relationship, I find that we drift into and out of spanking. 

We do not do maintenance spanking, although I wish we did. Maintenance spankings would ensure a spanking every week, if we scheduled a weekly accounting of my behavior.

This accountability I think would be great, although I might not think that when I am about to be spanked. 

We have on the spot type spankings, or stronger spankings whenever Cindy determines it is needed.

However, little things happen, none requiring a spanking in Cindy's mind, but still something she wishes was different than whatever had happened. Over time, these little things can be annoying, and dealing with a few in a weekly spanking, can help remove these little irritants.

We have one couple we know and visit, who do have a weekly summary spanking, although I am certain John is spanked immediatelyif he does something that truly annoys his wife. Plus, the weekend maintenance is a good time to remind him about the spanking he had received earlier that week.

To me, the ideal would be having a weekly real spanking.

Your thoughts, and if you do maintenance spankings, the reasons why would be very welcomed by me to read and share with  Cindy.

and the maintenance has to be REAL!

this sums it up nicely

No longer letting him off because you are busy!

Never let him say that what he was spanked for did not deserve a spanking. His saying that is worthy of another spanking.

your thoughts?

PS: I am on vacation, and will only have spotty internet service, so although I have left posts for four weeks, I many not rpely to any comments until after I am back. Feel free to reply to anyone elses comments for me!

bottoms up

Red

Taking spanking to the next level

I have often asked, though not frequently, for Cindy to spank me to help reduce my stress. This might be every month or bimonthly! Howver, this includes the fact that if I go too long without being spanked, then this sadly increases my stress levels. I  am usually spanked a couple of times a month, but recently it has been much more frequent, so absolutely no need to ask. 

Do you have this same dilemna of needing to ask to be spanked? 

Cindy always agrees, and the spanking happens ASAP, if not immediately.

We do not do maintenance spankings.

What has changed, thus my title of taking spanking to a new level.

Well, we are about to go on a month's vacation, and Cindy always stresses before going.

Aside: I have left two posts, scheduled to appear, so if interested you will need to look for them,a s they do not necessarily appear.

Cindy was stressed two nights ago, so to alleviate her stress, she spanked me!!!!

A real long session, over the knee, with both the leather tawse,

and then the Ms. Hurley wooden paddle. 

A very strong, effective spanking. 

She agreed, after I thanked her for my spanking (a ritual showing I accept being spanked), that her stress is less.

However, yesterday, I had an on the spot long spanking with a wooden spoon for not driving carefully and signaling when I turn. This has never happened before. 

Two days, two spanknigs initiated by Cindy.

Today, another on the spot spanking with the wooden spoon, longer than yesterday's, for raising my voice when frustrated. My fault to being frustrated while talking about finances with Cindy, but the solution was readily available.

Thus, three spankings in less than 48 hours, and the day is not finsihed.

Yes, we have entered a new era.

Yes, Cindy is smiling more than normal!

Has your partner increased your spankings on their own?

bottoms up

Red

Sadly, my scheduled posts are not posting

My account is truly fucked up, and I do NOT know how to fix it.

i keep scheduling posts, and although they eventually post, they do not update on other people's blogs, so very few people visit.

Anyways, I have two more posts scheduled, but will be traveling for a month and not posting beyond those two.

We just had a first for a spanking. Cindy was stressed, so she spanked me. Quite effectively I may add, on the spot in the kitchen.

enjoy life

bottoms up

Red

Have you ever attended a " spanking party or spanking weekend party "?

 This could be an interesting topic for people to discuss. 

We have attended a spanking weekend, which was a lot of effort on a couple's part to organize it. Sadly we have lost touch, mostly caused by my honesty in explaining what I experienced at the party.

We attended a F/M party where there were pssobly 15 couples present, although I no longer remeber how many attended. People came from various locals across the USA and Canada, and it was held in the Catskills if memory serves me correctly.

The sad part of this party was that it had all levels of what one might call players. Some were novices, like ourselves, and some were into severe spankings (which we were not).

The only warning I could give is that first time attendees should go to a well established event that has been runnig for years. Thus, the rules they explain, and enforce, makes play safe for everyone.

The first night it was meet and greet, and then pair up and spank the husbands. Many jumped up immediately with people they have played with before, and we were left almost alone in the room. Another couple saw us, and asked, so we said yes.

funny sign near the location of the party 

Before I was spanked, the woman asked whether I wanted real or play, and I chose play. That was exactly what she did, but at the end she asked if she could give a few real spanks, I agreed, and she did. Cindy does not want to spank anyone else, but reluctantly did for only a few spanks.  I foolishly gave Cindy the dominator to use, which is brutal, and after a couple of strokes, while I was over the other woman's knees being play spanked, i got Cindy to stop. 

The next morning. I was strongly spanked, but the proper word was beaten, by a woman who was trying to break me, and show her superiority over every male. At one point a woman interrupted to explain that spanking should only be on this part of my bottom, but then sat down. The beating continued for quite some time, without a murmer frm me incensing the woman, but finally I stood up and stopped the paddle being used with me bent over at the waist.

From that time on, I only had one other play spanking, where we more talked to the couple who had been uncertain to come to the party, because they knew some serious severe (sadist?) people were coming. They played only with playful others. 

A photo later that day!

Sadly, this bad experience has been the only spanking party we have ever attended. Now, I truly believe we have aged out of the shared spanking scene.

Without any other spanking, this was the brusing that came out the day after! Definitely NOT PLAY. 

If you have ever attended, please share your experiences.  

I have seen so many pictures of play spanking parties, but beware who you play with.

and a few smiles...

bottoms up

Red

As a youth: Did you erotically look at spanking pictures or read spanking books/stories

 A heads up first: if you are interested:

The Disciplinary Wives Club - Tribute   has now posted a link to the original documents from Aunt Kay of the Disciplinary Wives Club: specifically

The Disciplinary Wives Club - Manuals : DWC Woman's Guide

The Disciplinary Wives Club - Manuals : Please Discipline Me: Persuading Your Partner

The Disciplinary Wives Club - Manuals : DWC Companion's Guide

As some poeple have commented, they are dated, but the thoughts are useful, and are never meant to be an exact fit for eany or every couple.  But reading them, might enhance the lifestyle for your wife and you. bototms up

and NOW, today's post

I have been wondering how people began and fostered having a fascination of spanking. This is sort of a continuation from previous weeks.

The question for today

How did you start to think of being spanked as something you wanted to happen, 

or 

if you are the spanker, how did you decide you wanted to be the spanker?

My fascination began as a youth, when I read a semi adult newspaper which featured a story about spanking, that implied a happy ending afterwards. A woman was to spank a young male, and he was looking forward to it, because of the happy ending. 

I re-read this many times over the next few years. I then started searching for spanking thoughts, and the joke type magazines of young beautiful women being spanked did the trick.Usully the women were smiling while being spanked.

When old enough to buy Penthouse, their letters to the editors started having spanking stories. Moning on they had short small booklet of only letters tot he editors, whcih always had spanking as a part of many letters, then Variations came out that always had a spanknig feature section.

Certain books had spanking, and, although I read them, I no longer remember the names. I still enjoy when Hermione posts segments from modern day spanking books. (visit Hermione's site : Hermione's Heart )

Older movies had spanking scenes, plus advertisements that showed action , the actors, and a spanking. 

Eventually Janus was available in Canada, and I purchased them regularly, then Februs, and others by Janus. 

Scarlett Hill had some great spanking stories, annd in thesse I gravitated to the strong woman spanking a man. In all the previous, i sort of identified as being the stronger spanker, but also being the person being spanked (that is: the woman)   I bought as many NNL (NO nonsense ladies) as I could. They shipped to Canada.

In summary, I had gravitated to all spanking scenarios, but I imagined myself as being the person being spanked, and dominated.

However, spanking is still mainstream in wedding photos some times

bottoms up and smile

bottoms up
RED