Do you have a maintenance spanking routine in your relationship?

In the normal flow of everyday life, even in a spanking relationship, I find that we drift into and out of spanking. 

We do not do maintenance spanking, although I wish we did. Maintenance spankings would ensure a spanking every week, if we scheduled a weekly accounting of my behavior.

This accountability I think would be great, although I might not think that when I am about to be spanked. 

We have on the spot type spankings, or stronger spankings whenever Cindy determines it is needed.

However, little things happen, none requiring a spanking in Cindy's mind, but still something she wishes was different than whatever had happened. Over time, these little things can be annoying, and dealing with a few in a weekly spanking, can help remove these little irritants.

We have one couple we know and visit, who do have a weekly summary spanking, although I am certain John is spanked immediatelyif he does something that truly annoys his wife. Plus, the weekend maintenance is a good time to remind him about the spanking he had received earlier that week.

To me, the ideal would be having a weekly real spanking.

Your thoughts, and if you do maintenance spankings, the reasons why would be very welcomed by me to read and share with  Cindy.

and the maintenance has to be REAL!

this sums it up nicely

No longer letting him off because you are busy!

Never let him say that what he was spanked for did not deserve a spanking. His saying that is worthy of another spanking.

your thoughts?

PS: I am on vacation, and will only have spotty internet service, so although I have left posts for four weeks, I many not rpely to any comments until after I am back. Feel free to reply to anyone elses comments for me!

bottoms up

Red

Taking spanking to the next level

I have often asked, though not frequently, for Cindy to spank me to help reduce my stress. This might be every month or bimonthly! Howver, this includes the fact that if I go too long without being spanked, then this sadly increases my stress levels. I  am usually spanked a couple of times a month, but recently it has been much more frequent, so absolutely no need to ask. 

Do you have this same dilemna of needing to ask to be spanked? 

Cindy always agrees, and the spanking happens ASAP, if not immediately.

We do not do maintenance spankings.

What has changed, thus my title of taking spanking to a new level.

Well, we are about to go on a month's vacation, and Cindy always stresses before going.

Aside: I have left two posts, scheduled to appear, so if interested you will need to look for them,a s they do not necessarily appear.

Cindy was stressed two nights ago, so to alleviate her stress, she spanked me!!!!

A real long session, over the knee, with both the leather tawse,

and then the Ms. Hurley wooden paddle. 

A very strong, effective spanking. 

She agreed, after I thanked her for my spanking (a ritual showing I accept being spanked), that her stress is less.

However, yesterday, I had an on the spot long spanking with a wooden spoon for not driving carefully and signaling when I turn. This has never happened before. 

Two days, two spanknigs initiated by Cindy.

Today, another on the spot spanking with the wooden spoon, longer than yesterday's, for raising my voice when frustrated. My fault to being frustrated while talking about finances with Cindy, but the solution was readily available.

Thus, three spankings in less than 48 hours, and the day is not finsihed.

Yes, we have entered a new era.

Yes, Cindy is smiling more than normal!

Has your partner increased your spankings on their own?

bottoms up

Red

Sadly, my scheduled posts are not posting

My account is truly fucked up, and I do NOT know how to fix it.

i keep scheduling posts, and although they eventually post, they do not update on other people's blogs, so very few people visit.

Anyways, I have two more posts scheduled, but will be traveling for a month and not posting beyond those two.

We just had a first for a spanking. Cindy was stressed, so she spanked me. Quite effectively I may add, on the spot in the kitchen.

enjoy life

bottoms up

Red

Have you ever attended a " spanking party or spanking weekend party "?

 This could be an interesting topic for people to discuss. 

We have attended a spanking weekend, which was a lot of effort on a couple's part to organize it. Sadly we have lost touch, mostly caused by my honesty in explaining what I experienced at the party.

We attended a F/M party where there were pssobly 15 couples present, although I no longer remeber how many attended. People came from various locals across the USA and Canada, and it was held in the Catskills if memory serves me correctly.

The sad part of this party was that it had all levels of what one might call players. Some were novices, like ourselves, and some were into severe spankings (which we were not).

The only warning I could give is that first time attendees should go to a well established event that has been runnig for years. Thus, the rules they explain, and enforce, makes play safe for everyone.

The first night it was meet and greet, and then pair up and spank the husbands. Many jumped up immediately with people they have played with before, and we were left almost alone in the room. Another couple saw us, and asked, so we said yes.

funny sign near the location of the party 

Before I was spanked, the woman asked whether I wanted real or play, and I chose play. That was exactly what she did, but at the end she asked if she could give a few real spanks, I agreed, and she did. Cindy does not want to spank anyone else, but reluctantly did for only a few spanks.  I foolishly gave Cindy the dominator to use, which is brutal, and after a couple of strokes, while I was over the other woman's knees being play spanked, i got Cindy to stop. 

The next morning. I was strongly spanked, but the proper word was beaten, by a woman who was trying to break me, and show her superiority over every male. At one point a woman interrupted to explain that spanking should only be on this part of my bottom, but then sat down. The beating continued for quite some time, without a murmer frm me incensing the woman, but finally I stood up and stopped the paddle being used with me bent over at the waist.

From that time on, I only had one other play spanking, where we more talked to the couple who had been uncertain to come to the party, because they knew some serious severe (sadist?) people were coming. They played only with playful others. 

A photo later that day!

Sadly, this bad experience has been the only spanking party we have ever attended. Now, I truly believe we have aged out of the shared spanking scene.

Without any other spanking, this was the brusing that came out the day after! Definitely NOT PLAY. 

If you have ever attended, please share your experiences.  

I have seen so many pictures of play spanking parties, but beware who you play with.

and a few smiles...

bottoms up

Red

As a youth: Did you erotically look at spanking pictures or read spanking books/stories

 A heads up first: if you are interested:

The Disciplinary Wives Club - Tribute   has now posted a link to the original documents from Aunt Kay of the Disciplinary Wives Club: specifically

The Disciplinary Wives Club - Manuals : DWC Woman's Guide

The Disciplinary Wives Club - Manuals : Please Discipline Me: Persuading Your Partner

The Disciplinary Wives Club - Manuals : DWC Companion's Guide

As some poeple have commented, they are dated, but the thoughts are useful, and are never meant to be an exact fit for eany or every couple.  But reading them, might enhance the lifestyle for your wife and you. bototms up

and NOW, today's post

I have been wondering how people began and fostered having a fascination of spanking. This is sort of a continuation from previous weeks.

The question for today

How did you start to think of being spanked as something you wanted to happen, 

or 

if you are the spanker, how did you decide you wanted to be the spanker?

My fascination began as a youth, when I read a semi adult newspaper which featured a story about spanking, that implied a happy ending afterwards. A woman was to spank a young male, and he was looking forward to it, because of the happy ending. 

I re-read this many times over the next few years. I then started searching for spanking thoughts, and the joke type magazines of young beautiful women being spanked did the trick.Usully the women were smiling while being spanked.

When old enough to buy Penthouse, their letters to the editors started having spanking stories. Moning on they had short small booklet of only letters tot he editors, whcih always had spanking as a part of many letters, then Variations came out that always had a spanknig feature section.

Certain books had spanking, and, although I read them, I no longer remember the names. I still enjoy when Hermione posts segments from modern day spanking books. (visit Hermione's site : Hermione's Heart )

Older movies had spanking scenes, plus advertisements that showed action , the actors, and a spanking. 

Eventually Janus was available in Canada, and I purchased them regularly, then Februs, and others by Janus. 

Scarlett Hill had some great spanking stories, annd in thesse I gravitated to the strong woman spanking a man. In all the previous, i sort of identified as being the stronger spanker, but also being the person being spanked (that is: the woman)   I bought as many NNL (NO nonsense ladies) as I could. They shipped to Canada.

In summary, I had gravitated to all spanking scenarios, but I imagined myself as being the person being spanked, and dominated.

However, spanking is still mainstream in wedding photos some times

bottoms up and smile

bottoms up
RED

What are the three most used spanking positions when you are spanked?

Variety is the spice of life, but after many years of being spanked, I think most people use only a couple of positions for the spankee to be in. 

The reason being, in my mind, is that we evovle into using the easiest method for the spanker to give the most effective spanking.

Normally, when told  I am going to be spanked, I am either told by go upstairs and prepare, or most of the time "come upstairs". The " come upstairs" might be for a spanking I was NOT expecting, but I usually am made aware of a spanking about to happen today. 

method 1: pillows in the bed to raise my bare bottom, and Cindy standing spanking me. 

If Cindy is using the tawse, or the bath brush, it is used with effective force. 

My most recent with a bath brush only.

Method 2. If over the knee is the method for today, it is equally effective.

Method 3 is on the spot, and that usually is a wooden spoon in the kitchen: with the words, 

BARE YOUR BOTTOM AND BEND OVER

however, if she pulls a chair out and sits down, then a long spanking is about to be given

So, would you like to share the usual positions you are spanked in (As I think almost everyone who comments is the spankee)  or what favorite positions do you like to be in or on to spank someone. 

Thought for the day:

easy to remember

smile

 

bottoms up

Red