Has your wife learned to give more effective spankings?

In our situation, Cindy is an extremely effective spanker. Our journey in F/M spanking began like most people I believe very tentatively. The wife loves her husband, and cannot imagine why she would want to make him suffer. Thus, spanking is simply unfathomable.

More than 20 years later, Cindy is comfortable, and quite happy to spank me when she thinks it is deserved, or if I ask for stress relief. 

1. Her spankings are longer in that she takes a pause partway through, and then continues. There may be a lecture of why this spanking is being given, and then the spanking begins again. Occasionally, another pause may occur and she will ask me to explain why I am being spanked, and what I am going to do to not need another spanking for this behavior.

2. Her spankings are more focused.She makes certain that my whole bottom is bright red, with that tell tale grey in the middle of each cheek. 

My usual position is bare bottomed on top of pillows, at the corner of the bed so that one leg is on each side of the bed. This truly opens me up for being spanked thoroughly. She frequently uses the short tawse, and spanks first from one side on one cheek, and then from the other side on the other cheek. This causes the tawse end to spank the inner parts of the crease between my buttocks. That area has been bright red many times, as almsot every spank reaches it.

In addition, she uses it on the crease between the bottom of my buttocks and the top of my thighs.

3. When upset, she usually goes upstairs, and then calls out: "Please come upstairs". Those words mean a signficant spanking! On these occasions she informs me to get both the bath brush and the tawse (something wooden and something leather)

4. If bothered by something I did while helping to make a meal or cleaning up in the kitchen, she picks up a wooden spoon and says bare your bottom. I immediately respond and also bend over the counter.

5. It is a given that before going out to visit friends, I am spanked. There has never been a reason to spank me when we get home.

6. Lastly, as normal, I was spanked yesterday, and my bottom is still sore sitting and typing this post while on a padded chair.

PS: We never do hand spankings. We started but it proved to be ineffective, and also Cindy hurt her finger badly once, ending forever hand spankings 

Rarely used, but available

so, the topic for today

Has your wife learned to give more effective spankings?

Two requests: do you know of an inexpensive to reasonably priced site to purchase a long tawse, 

and a whippy cane? 

Earlier in our spanking life, both were terrible items that wrapped onto my side from Cindy's inexperience, and we threw them away. Cindy being an experienced spanker, they would be  (un)welcome but needed items for Cindy to have.

Lastly, we have not gotten to either of these stages, but a whippy cane would succeed

or until then, 5 minutes none stop with a bath brush!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

bottoms up

Red

Do you sometimes ask to be spanked?

In a healthy marriage, spanking, at least for us, is an outlet to make our marriage far more satisfying and loving. I am reasonably certain this is not the average married person's idea of what happens in a marriage.

I sometimes ask to be spanked, and Cindy almost always spanks me immediately, or later that day. I cannot remember any time that I have to wait until the next day.

Why do I ask to be spanked?

1. If I start getting stressed, I find that the stress builds. I tend to focus on the reason, and do not draw back into thinking id it is really important in my life.

One stressor is:

Reading the news too often, and knowing how one sided the media in Canada in favor of the current Liberal government. They never disagree with the governmenbt policy, nor question the accuracy of totally false statements made by Prime Minister Carney. I could give you so many examples,but this is not the place. Equally stressing, is the negative press about President Trump, never mentioning any accomplishments of his government.

However, no one is here to read about my stress.

When I find myself going down the 'rabbit hole', I ask Cindy to spank me, and help me back into the happiness that we have in life. We have our health, we travel frequently, our family is healthy and enjoying life, and all are prosperous. We have enough money to live on, and thus I always tip over generously, simply making the recipient a little happier for the moment. 

Example $5 but now usually $10 for the person who cleans the room in whatever hotel chain we are staying at, and I do this each day of the stay. If the front desk asks if we need to have the room cleaned daily, I say yes, with the proviso that it creates employment, and gives me a chance to tip the cleaner.

Eliminating stress

Cindy is almost always happy while spanking me, specially if I asked to be spanked. No need for her to worry that she is maybe overreacting to something, or that she might have caused my behavior. She never spanks when angry, but waits until the anger has subsided. 

The happiness is evident also the next day.

2. If I am doing okay, but have not been spanked for a few weeks, a sort of edginess, and/or grumpiness arises in me, that is best solved by a spanking. I do know that it will be an effective spanking!

Cindy is usually aware of my becoming grumpy, and asks do you need to be spanked. That question, sometimes ends the grumpiness, but sometimes I say : Yes, it would help solve things, and she is very happy to help!.

3, Self awareness: When I know I have done something that will result in a spanking, I tell Cindy about it instead of feeling guilty, and wondering if she will find out.

These spankings might be much more intense, although almost all of my spankings are intense.

 The crease between the bottom of the cheeks and the top of legs is getting a significant spanking

So, for your consideration:

Have you ever asked your wife to spank you?

If you answered yes, please explain the reason(s) where you might ask to be spanked.

bottoms up

Red

Home again

We had a fabulous vacation, visiting many National Parks and /national Monuments in the USA. 

I will get back to posting ina few days, after groceries, paying bills, doing laundry, cutting the grass, and a few other sundry things.

Wjen caught up, I will resond to readers who have commented

bottoms up

Red

Are you spanked before going to an event(warning/stress relief)

We have for many years now used a preventative spanking to remind me of a few things before going.

1. Do not drink too much, as when you do you get argumentative and unpleasant to be with.

2. Remeber to talk less and llisten more, even if the person never asks about you and only talks about themselves or their interests.

3. Be happy. We are there to have a good time

4. Avoid any political discussion, as you are either talknig tot he converted, or you are not ever going to convince someone to change an opinion. 

5. Have fun!

This was done at my request, and if Cindy forgets, I ask her for a spanking before leaving, and long enough beforehand so she is not rushed getting ready.

As it should be!

I find that if I start to get frustrated, I can still feel my sore bottom and let the mood slide.

bottoms up

Red

Are you a member of any spanking site containing pictures/text of spankings

Early, early internet, I did join one site for a month, clicking on many pictures of women spanking men, and saving them to my computer.

Tumblr existed back then, but i did not know much about it, so this was the only way to see photos and videos, besides the freebies as a come on to join the site.

as she thought to herself, this spanking I give him I am really going to enjoy

Now, the internet is full of sites with men being spanked by women, so although I still save photos to my desktop, the main purpose is to reuse them in posts here or on tumblr.

Dear, this will be a severe spanking for what you did

I have no idea why people still join these sites, but obviously some people still do. 

    Could it be fear of things stored on their computer being found, as opposed to only accessing online then discnnecting from the site.

    Could it be that they really love a spanker, and like watching videos of her giving spankings.    

I would love her to spank me

Your thoughts on why they are still so many for pay sites?

bottoms up

Red

Do you have a maintenance spanking routine in your relationship?

In the normal flow of everyday life, even in a spanking relationship, I find that we drift into and out of spanking. 

We do not do maintenance spanking, although I wish we did. Maintenance spankings would ensure a spanking every week, if we scheduled a weekly accounting of my behavior.

This accountability I think would be great, although I might not think that when I am about to be spanked. 

We have on the spot type spankings, or stronger spankings whenever Cindy determines it is needed.

However, little things happen, none requiring a spanking in Cindy's mind, but still something she wishes was different than whatever had happened. Over time, these little things can be annoying, and dealing with a few in a weekly spanking, can help remove these little irritants.

We have one couple we know and visit, who do have a weekly summary spanking, although I am certain John is spanked immediatelyif he does something that truly annoys his wife. Plus, the weekend maintenance is a good time to remind him about the spanking he had received earlier that week.

To me, the ideal would be having a weekly real spanking.

Your thoughts, and if you do maintenance spankings, the reasons why would be very welcomed by me to read and share with  Cindy.

and the maintenance has to be REAL!

this sums it up nicely

No longer letting him off because you are busy!

Never let him say that what he was spanked for did not deserve a spanking. His saying that is worthy of another spanking.

your thoughts?

PS: I am on vacation, and will only have spotty internet service, so although I have left posts for four weeks, I many not rpely to any comments until after I am back. Feel free to reply to anyone elses comments for me!

bottoms up

Red

Taking spanking to the next level

I have often asked, though not frequently, for Cindy to spank me to help reduce my stress. This might be every month or bimonthly! Howver, this includes the fact that if I go too long without being spanked, then this sadly increases my stress levels. I  am usually spanked a couple of times a month, but recently it has been much more frequent, so absolutely no need to ask. 

Do you have this same dilemna of needing to ask to be spanked? 

Cindy always agrees, and the spanking happens ASAP, if not immediately.

We do not do maintenance spankings.

What has changed, thus my title of taking spanking to a new level.

Well, we are about to go on a month's vacation, and Cindy always stresses before going.

Aside: I have left two posts, scheduled to appear, so if interested you will need to look for them,a s they do not necessarily appear.

Cindy was stressed two nights ago, so to alleviate her stress, she spanked me!!!!

A real long session, over the knee, with both the leather tawse,

and then the Ms. Hurley wooden paddle. 

A very strong, effective spanking. 

She agreed, after I thanked her for my spanking (a ritual showing I accept being spanked), that her stress is less.

However, yesterday, I had an on the spot long spanking with a wooden spoon for not driving carefully and signaling when I turn. This has never happened before. 

Two days, two spanknigs initiated by Cindy.

Today, another on the spot spanking with the wooden spoon, longer than yesterday's, for raising my voice when frustrated. My fault to being frustrated while talking about finances with Cindy, but the solution was readily available.

Thus, three spankings in less than 48 hours, and the day is not finsihed.

Yes, we have entered a new era.

Yes, Cindy is smiling more than normal!

Has your partner increased your spankings on their own?

bottoms up

Red

Sadly, my scheduled posts are not posting

My account is truly fucked up, and I do NOT know how to fix it.

i keep scheduling posts, and although they eventually post, they do not update on other people's blogs, so very few people visit.

Anyways, I have two more posts scheduled, but will be traveling for a month and not posting beyond those two.

We just had a first for a spanking. Cindy was stressed, so she spanked me. Quite effectively I may add, on the spot in the kitchen.

enjoy life

bottoms up

Red

Have you ever attended a " spanking party or spanking weekend party "?

 This could be an interesting topic for people to discuss. 

We have attended a spanking weekend, which was a lot of effort on a couple's part to organize it. Sadly we have lost touch, mostly caused by my honesty in explaining what I experienced at the party.

We attended a F/M party where there were pssobly 15 couples present, although I no longer remeber how many attended. People came from various locals across the USA and Canada, and it was held in the Catskills if memory serves me correctly.

The sad part of this party was that it had all levels of what one might call players. Some were novices, like ourselves, and some were into severe spankings (which we were not).

The only warning I could give is that first time attendees should go to a well established event that has been runnig for years. Thus, the rules they explain, and enforce, makes play safe for everyone.

The first night it was meet and greet, and then pair up and spank the husbands. Many jumped up immediately with people they have played with before, and we were left almost alone in the room. Another couple saw us, and asked, so we said yes.

funny sign near the location of the party 

Before I was spanked, the woman asked whether I wanted real or play, and I chose play. That was exactly what she did, but at the end she asked if she could give a few real spanks, I agreed, and she did. Cindy does not want to spank anyone else, but reluctantly did for only a few spanks.  I foolishly gave Cindy the dominator to use, which is brutal, and after a couple of strokes, while I was over the other woman's knees being play spanked, i got Cindy to stop. 

The next morning. I was strongly spanked, but the proper word was beaten, by a woman who was trying to break me, and show her superiority over every male. At one point a woman interrupted to explain that spanking should only be on this part of my bottom, but then sat down. The beating continued for quite some time, without a murmer frm me incensing the woman, but finally I stood up and stopped the paddle being used with me bent over at the waist.

From that time on, I only had one other play spanking, where we more talked to the couple who had been uncertain to come to the party, because they knew some serious severe (sadist?) people were coming. They played only with playful others. 

A photo later that day!

Sadly, this bad experience has been the only spanking party we have ever attended. Now, I truly believe we have aged out of the shared spanking scene.

Without any other spanking, this was the brusing that came out the day after! Definitely NOT PLAY. 

If you have ever attended, please share your experiences.  

I have seen so many pictures of play spanking parties, but beware who you play with.

and a few smiles...

bottoms up

Red