Has spanking helped increase or maintain an active sex life?

Cindy is now quite happy when spanking me, 

for whatever reason she feels needs to be changed, or as a precaution before meeting friends and relatives, or for something I just did that upset her.

We are in our late 70's (past what one would LIKE TO call our middle 70's) and have a very exciting sex life after more than 50 years being married. 

I still get erections (sometimes) by being told I will be spanked, and the erotic thought fills the moment,

but age and knowing it will be a real spanking, not a play spanking, does temper my reaction sometimes.

Cindy is very receptive to love making the day after spanking me. but rarely the day of. 

A spanking is given for a reason, and is not rewarded with sex afterwards. Anticipation does exist however, for both of us, and the passion is even greater when making love.

Many things can get in the way of a couple having sex as they age, and to me I think spanking helps keep the love and sexual desire AWAKE! 

In addition, having this blog, or the tumblr I have,(https://http://spankings4u.tumblr.com) keeps spanking and sexual thoughts alive.

I read F/m spanking captions almost daily, even when on vacation, and usually have a sexual reaction.  That facet certainly helps keep the sex drive functioning. 

You can never know the sex life of couples you know, but you can get some idea from whether they still care about their appearance, how they behave to each other, and how generally happy they seem to be.

We travel frequently, and having adventures, planning adventures, and simply living life to the fullest we can helps keep us healthy, and mentally stimulated.

It is a two way street. You both need to honestly care about each other, and enjoy each others company. At a certain age penetration may no longer be appropriate, but orally pleasing each other to orgasm is highly recommended.

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Are you willing, as no one knows who you are, to express your thoughts about spanking in relation to the frequency of your love making with your partner? 

Aside: I only know two women who have blogs that I have chatted with online, but have never met them. If they read the above, then they know more about me and Cindy than we know about them. None of what they read here would cause me any shame whatsoever (and they know our real age)

Also, one couple (the husband) reads this blog, so no shame in them knowing also.

If any of them want to answer the question, please feel free to do it. if John does, he probably will be rewarded with a very sound spanking. (He would like that)

If both Hermione and Ronnie write, they would equally be rewarded with a strong spanking. Again a win for both of them.

Keep smiling folks.

Last point on sex: we are down(pun intended) to three times on average every two weeks, and they are fantastic. So much different from when we had children at home, where being quiet, or exhausted ruled the day. Plus no spanking back then.

Final last point: If your sex life has faded somewhat, do you think spanking helps keep it at a higher level than it would be if spanking did not exist.

and now some smiles

bottoms up

Red

How did spanking become a part of your marriage (or relationship)!

 Well, a little rambling, like Dan calls riffing, about us.

I have had a fantasy kink about spanking, since as long as I can remember. (from sometime in my teenage years). My initial thoughts were of being the spanker, but an equal fascination of being spanked when I would see that situation in a magazine in photos or simply being described in words. Spanking thoughts and putting yourself into the spanknig always created an erection for me, with the normal results for a young male.

I hid spanking from my future wife, as I loved her and did not want her to think of me as a pervert and thus an undesirable life partner. We married in our early mid 20's. We have children, and never spanked our kids. I eventually gave in to my fetish with buying spanking magazines and hiding them away, like I had done in my teenage years, and after more than ten years told her a bit more about my kink. She wanted nothing to do with it, but did not prohibit my buying magazines as long as I hid them.

Fast forward another 20 years and with two of the three children grown up and left the home, I broached trying spanking when the youngest was out. It was not accepted as an idea to pursue.

By the time the youngest was away to university, I had discovered the Disciplinary wives club, and purchased many of their publications, one of which was for the woman whose husband wants her to spank him, and how to mentally approach spanking her man. Another was for the man as to how to discuss that you would be the person being spanked, and accepting being spanked, and promoting your wife that she will have a positive experience.

Cindy, knowing this was a fetish that would never go away, read the material on the website, and what I had purchased! She agreed to parts of what she read, but felt parts were too severe to ever be reasonable.  I liked the nonchalance of spanking your husband when needs it, as personified in this photo from the website 

I always loved the wife smiling, and the idea that a wife smiles while spanking you, and solving a problem.

I started a blog called spankedhubby, after discovering the dwc website, but after many years my blog simply disappeared, without any warning or explanation. 

I have purchased many implements over the years, many from the DWC site when it existed. We threw away ones that were too severe.  We visited Aunt Kay once, and slowly spanking has become more of our life.

Cindy and I are now quite happy with spanking, but it still happens in stages, as previously described on this blog

Cindy is now quite happy when spanking me, for whatever reason she feels needs to be changed or for something I did that upset her.

We are in our late 70's (past what one would call our middle 70's) and have a very exciting sex life after more than 50 years being married. 

I still get erections (sometimes) by being told I will be spanked, and the erotic thought fills the moment,, but age and knowing it will be a real spanking, not a play spanking, does temper my reaction sometimes.

Cindy is very receptive to love making the day after spanking me. but rarely the day of.  A spanking is given for a reason, and is not rewarded with sex afterwards. Anticipation does exist however, for both of us, and the passion is even greater when making love.

Many things can get in the way of a couple having sex as they age, and to me I think spanking helps keep the love and sexual desire AWAKE! 

Your history and your thoughts about spanking in relation to your love making. (you can answer both or either) 

Always leave them smiling

bottoms up

Red

Are you spanked when on a vacation? (updated)

 Here is an interesting thought for you to consider. 

Identical to being in a cabin on a cruise ship, where the walls are paper thin, and you have no idea who is walking by in the hallway.

1. Are you spanked while on vacation?

2. If yes, then the obvious follow-up is what implements do you bring with you when traveling?

3. What places have you been spanked in? (hotels, cruise cabins, airbnb, in the car at the side of the road, or park and enter the forest to be spanked, or even at a friend's house) Other places are also welcome.

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4. Lastly, do you think anyone has heard?

1. Personally, I am spanked on almost every vacation, if not all vacations. We tend to travel for longer times, so the idea of not being spanked while away seems highly unlikely. Some spankings are at my request, some are a surprise that I am about to be spanked.

2. Normally, we take the short tawse and the wooden bath brush, but have at times taken the cane also. I always wear a belt so that is also available. Cindy normally uses botht he tawse and bath brush for any spanking.

3. The paper thin walls of a cruise ship cabin, or inexpensive hotels, no longer in any way detour a spanking occuring. The most we do is turn the music on, and then Cindy spanks as long as she desires.

4. I am certain we have been heard, as on the occasional cruise the person leaving the cabin next door at the same time we are , seems to stare for a moment, grasping the situation. I smile and keep walking. For certain some cabin stewards must have heard, because you never know when they are in the hallways. We do LOCK the door and put up the do not disturb sign.

However, the sound of a solid spanking with a bath brush is very loud!

Spanked in the daytime does not mean that is all for the day

Being spanked on vacation and possibly being heard adds to the effectiveness of feeling submissive, and agreeable for whatever Cindy would like to do!

bottoms up and smile

Red

Your opinion on AI generated spanking photos and videos

I am very against AI generated spanking photos! I like seeing real people being spanked by real people.  This also keeps real people invovled in creating spanking scenes, and either spanking or being spanked.  AI has not to my mind generated believable figures in spanking scenes. 

In addition, spanking photos where the spankee's bottom is made to look redder than reality is simply wrong in my opinion.

This photo looks entirely real to me. as a determined spanker can achieve it.

Some tumblrs and blogs are moving into AI generated photos, and I simply remove those sites from my feed.

Animating with voice of a spanking scene is also very common, but to me, it is still unreal.  The fact that the spanker is saying words about spanking is somewhat similar to photos with captions. However, in photos of real people with captions, the key to making it successful is that it takes your imagination  and thinking to visualize the scene to make it real. You are drawn in by the words as though they are being directed at you. When the whole description of what is about to happen is stated, clinically, it loses its magical connection to your mind. 

Spanking art has always been an attraction for me, if the artist is good at setting a scene. 

Sadly, underling has stopped blogging, but a link on the side of my blog takes you to his site, which still remains. He adds wonderful text making his art just a part of the complete story of a spanking.

What do you think?

bottoms up

Red