Taking spanking to the next level

I have often asked, though not frequently, for Cindy to spank me to help reduce my stress. This might be every month or bimonthly! Howver, this includes the fact that if I go too long without being spanked, then this sadly increases my stress levels. I  am usually spanked a couple of times a month, but recently it has been much more frequent, so absolutely no need to ask. 

Do you have this same dilemna of needing to ask to be spanked? 

Cindy always agrees, and the spanking happens ASAP, if not immediately.

We do not do maintenance spankings.

What has changed, thus my title of taking spanking to a new level.

Well, we are about to go on a month's vacation, and Cindy always stresses before going.

Aside: I have left two posts, scheduled to appear, so if interested you will need to look for them,a s they do not necessarily appear.

Cindy was stressed two nights ago, so to alleviate her stress, she spanked me!!!!

A real long session, over the knee, with both the leather tawse,

and then the Ms. Hurley wooden paddle. 

A very strong, effective spanking. 

She agreed, after I thanked her for my spanking (a ritual showing I accept being spanked), that her stress is less.

However, yesterday, I had an on the spot long spanking with a wooden spoon for not driving carefully and signaling when I turn. This has never happened before. 

Two days, two spanknigs initiated by Cindy.

Today, another on the spot spanking with the wooden spoon, longer than yesterday's, for raising my voice when frustrated. My fault to being frustrated while talking about finances with Cindy, but the solution was readily available.

Thus, three spankings in less than 48 hours, and the day is not finsihed.

Yes, we have entered a new era.

Yes, Cindy is smiling more than normal!

Has your partner increased your spankings on their own?

bottoms up

Red

Have you ever attended a " spanking party or spanking weekend party "?

 This could be an interesting topic for people to discuss. 

We have attended a spanking weekend, which was a lot of effort on a couple's part to organize it. Sadly we have lost touch, mostly caused by my honesty in explaining what I experienced at the party.

We attended a F/M party where there were pssobly 15 couples present, although I no longer remeber how many attended. People came from various locals across the USA and Canada, and it was held in the Catskills if memory serves me correctly.

The sad part of this party was that it had all levels of what one might call players. Some were novices, like ourselves, and some were into severe spankings (which we were not).

The only warning I could give is that first time attendees should go to a well established event that has been runnig for years. Thus, the rules they explain, and enforce, makes play safe for everyone.

The first night it was meet and greet, and then pair up and spank the husbands. Many jumped up immediately with people they have played with before, and we were left almost alone in the room. Another couple saw us, and asked, so we said yes.

funny sign near the location of the party 

Before I was spanked, the woman asked whether I wanted real or play, and I chose play. That was exactly what she did, but at the end she asked if she could give a few real spanks, I agreed, and she did. Cindy does not want to spank anyone else, but reluctantly did for only a few spanks.  I foolishly gave Cindy the dominator to use, which is brutal, and after a couple of strokes, while I was over the other woman's knees being play spanked, i got Cindy to stop. 

The next morning. I was strongly spanked, but the proper word was beaten, by a woman who was trying to break me, and show her superiority over every male. At one point a woman interrupted to explain that spanking should only be on this part of my bottom, but then sat down. The beating continued for quite some time, without a murmer frm me incensing the woman, but finally I stood up and stopped the paddle being used with me bent over at the waist.

From that time on, I only had one other play spanking, where we more talked to the couple who had been uncertain to come to the party, because they knew some serious severe (sadist?) people were coming. They played only with playful others. 

A photo later that day!

Sadly, this bad experience has been the only spanking party we have ever attended. Now, I truly believe we have aged out of the shared spanking scene.

Without any other spanking, this was the brusing that came out the day after! Definitely NOT PLAY. 

If you have ever attended, please share your experiences.  

I have seen so many pictures of play spanking parties, but beware who you play with.

and a few smiles...

bottoms up

Red

As a youth: Did you erotically look at spanking pictures or read spanking books/stories

 A heads up first: if you are interested:

The Disciplinary Wives Club - Tribute   has now posted a link to the original documents from Aunt Kay of the Disciplinary Wives Club: specifically

The Disciplinary Wives Club - Manuals : DWC Woman's Guide

The Disciplinary Wives Club - Manuals : Please Discipline Me: Persuading Your Partner

The Disciplinary Wives Club - Manuals : DWC Companion's Guide

As some poeple have commented, they are dated, but the thoughts are useful, and are never meant to be an exact fit for eany or every couple.  But reading them, might enhance the lifestyle for your wife and you. bototms up

and NOW, today's post

I have been wondering how people began and fostered having a fascination of spanking. This is sort of a continuation from previous weeks.

The question for today

How did you start to think of being spanked as something you wanted to happen, 

or 

if you are the spanker, how did you decide you wanted to be the spanker?

My fascination began as a youth, when I read a semi adult newspaper which featured a story about spanking, that implied a happy ending afterwards. A woman was to spank a young male, and he was looking forward to it, because of the happy ending. 

I re-read this many times over the next few years. I then started searching for spanking thoughts, and the joke type magazines of young beautiful women being spanked did the trick.Usully the women were smiling while being spanked.

When old enough to buy Penthouse, their letters to the editors started having spanking stories. Moning on they had short small booklet of only letters tot he editors, whcih always had spanking as a part of many letters, then Variations came out that always had a spanknig feature section.

Certain books had spanking, and, although I read them, I no longer remember the names. I still enjoy when Hermione posts segments from modern day spanking books. (visit Hermione's site : Hermione's Heart )

Older movies had spanking scenes, plus advertisements that showed action , the actors, and a spanking. 

Eventually Janus was available in Canada, and I purchased them regularly, then Februs, and others by Janus. 

Scarlett Hill had some great spanking stories, annd in thesse I gravitated to the strong woman spanking a man. In all the previous, i sort of identified as being the stronger spanker, but also being the person being spanked (that is: the woman)   I bought as many NNL (NO nonsense ladies) as I could. They shipped to Canada.

In summary, I had gravitated to all spanking scenarios, but I imagined myself as being the person being spanked, and dominated.

However, spanking is still mainstream in wedding photos some times

bottoms up and smile

bottoms up
RED

Do you store spanking photos, videos, captioned photos on your home computer, and why?

I store spanking photos, videos, captioned photos on my home desktop computer. It is my own personal computer, and nobody else uses it. The password is only known by Cindy, so it is a relatively secure place. 

I have no great importance in life, so somebody breaking in and stealing my computer would not have any financial gain by finding the spanking info, and selling this feature of my life to any publication.

I find spanking thoughts sexually exciting, and I think by re-inforcing my desires has helped keep our sexual life alive and extremely amazing. On average, I would guess we have passionate love making three times every two weeks. Cindy and I both being in our late 70's makes this simply amazing. [ married for more than 50 years] Sex is almost exclusively oral both ways, so that one can concentrate on the best orgasm possible for their partner. 

Reading spanking captioned photos: of a spanking about to be given:

will it be a very bad, crying spanking?

or when we get home

or any of the myriad of possibilities leads to having erections daily.

I save some of them, because blogs and tumblrs come and go, and sometimes the  best gets taken down by the provider, or simply because the author is trying to change their daily thinking about spanking, but fortunately some leave the tumblr with posts remaining, or re-start posting.

I rarely look at videos.  The reason is probably that the mental aspects of spanking are what fosters reactions. The thought of being the spankee with other people watching,

 or being spanked by another member of the family

or an in-law, (like a mother-in-law)

 or being spanked in public

or being teased about the spanking that was given,

all add to the aura of spanking.

Are the spanking photos hidden. Sort of: is the best answer but google and internet explorer keep finding new ways to show the most recent I have saved. Saved in documents, in one of many folders, within the first level of that folder there are many folders, within the right one there are many folders, then many more layers being buried downwards, with plenty of red herrings to lead one to give up. (I HOPE)

What do you do?

bottoms up

Red

Do you or your partner have photos of your spanked bottom

Having read my friend's blog, [www.ronniesoul.blogspot.com] called Heart and Soul (a link is on the side) of my blog, I was delighted to see a coy photo of her bare bottom and P's hand.

This made me wonder if others take photos after being spanked!

I have had Cindy take a photo or two of my very red bottom, throughout the years. As we age, my bottom changes somewhat, and the red is much stronger than it ever used to be when we first started spanking.  As a joke I can say it is because the iphone camera is far better than any camera I previously owned, but in reality it is also because Cindy spanks so much harder and longer. (which is what I requested so as to be effective)

If you do take photos, where do you store them?

I have mine buried in documents, inside about fifteen or more subfolders. There are about twenty folders to start, so to find them one would have to open the correct folder, then choose from another ten folders the correct one, and having multiple choices along the way, and keep opening folders in the right sequence, until getting there. 

How or where do you keep photos?

Here is one of my bottom after a spanking at a spanking party in I believe in August 2009, in the Catskills. The only spanking party we ever attended. 

I thought it was to be fun spankings, and it started that way with my first spanking the night before (the woman asked if I wanted play or real- I said play and that was what was given), but the next morning this one woman (in my humble opinion) was wanting to punish severely and break any man, and thus a contest of wills! Sad! Some men were hobbling around in great pain when the weekend was ending, whereas others were fine, because they had recognized who they would let spank them, and who they would not permit to spank them. I had severe bruising from this one spanking that lasted a couple of weeks, at what was supposedly a fun spanking party.

                                            a photo from later that day

and a few days later

The couple that ran the party were very nice, and I am sorry I have lost their contact information. If you are one of them actually reading this, or attended this party, send me a note please, so we can reconnect.

bottoms up

Red

Do you use regular maintenance spankings

 No idea if anyone ever looks at this blog, as I have been absent from blogging for a long time.

I have suggested it to Cindy, but she does not want spankings to be on a schedule, more on an as needed basis.  If she is unhappy with my behavior, then she will spank me if she is  upset enough and feels it will help solve the problem.

She also will spank me if I ask for a spanking, whether it is for something I have done that she is unaware of, or simply I feel it is necessary to keep me grounded and in good humor. (that is, relieve the stress that builds in life)

I might suggest it again, to see if her interest has increased, and as a way to control my stress regularly.

We have an almost identical bath brush, but the wood side has long lost its glossy shine

bottoms up

Red

Do you at times need to ask to be spanked?

In our situation , spankings occur in a infrequent pattern.

I quite often have to ask to be spanked, as periods of time can go by before Cindy initiates a spanking.

Cindy always agrees and the spanking is immediate or soon on the same day. Once this happens, spankings  can happen frequently over the next week. Sometimes as simple as hand me the spoon, foolwed by bare your bottom,:

and a quick on the spot spanking occurs. An explanation is given as to what I have done wrong during the spanking. 

Cindy has learned to pace herself, so it might be 30 seconds of a spank a second, followed by her explaining why, followed by another session of spanks. Sometimes, there are three lectures surrounded by four spank sessions before this spanking is done. I always thank Cindy for the spanking, and try my best to not repeat whatever I had done. We are both human, so mistakes happen.

I have an addiction ot spanking thoughts, and although I do NOT like the actual spanks, the thoughts of before and after are very erotic for me.

If I go more than two or three weeks without spanking, I definitely ask for one, and Cindy then gives a longer one, with my bare bottoom raised over two or three pillows, with Cindy standing using the tawse, bath brush, or cane, or Ms Hurley.

Do i like being spanked?

Yes

bottoms up

Red