Cindy has for the most part accepted the idea of spanking me, and to keep spanking frequently, until a behaviuor she dislikes disappears. This is totally new for us.
I have a bad tendency of saying: "you should have done...." and she wants me to think before I speak, and choose a nicer way of saying a suggestion than you SHOULD HAVE.
Normally, spankings are on the spot, but not frequently, and only when she is upset about something I have done, or that stress over time has me asking for a spanking.
Ccurrently it is "tough love"
Thr bath brush has been used each time, and having been spanked two days in a row significantly (Sunday and Monday), I was much better on Tuesday. Unfortunately, I used the "should have done" expression today, so will be spanked before dinner.
My bottom is still sore from the two days of spanking; so we shall see if I can actually learn to think before speaking, or will another spanking be needed after today.
Not my bottom, but very similar markings except they also went lower.
Have spankings worked for you to stop a specific behavior?
thought for today
RED
Our marriage is strong because of the spankings my wife applies. While dating she had enough of my attitude and stated it would her way or we are done. When she said a spanking, I thought a sexual thing and said yes. She had me over her knee and with my pants still on used her hand. Then she reached for her purse pulled out her hairbrush told me to stand up. She pulled down my pants, underpants and back over her lap. When I got up after the spanking I danced around, rubbing. Sternly said this is how it will be, understand, I said yes rubbing my sore spanked bottom. You will call me Mommy when you need a spanking, Understand, Yes Mommy. Mommy wants you to face the wall, no more rubbing, Yes Mommy. The wedding was a month away, the honeymoon was really good. When we got home she said get to the bedroom, we will have a talk. I knew what she meant and I said please Mommy, Mommy is going to insure my husband be a good little boy, to the bedroom. When we left the bedroom I was crying, rubbing, and facing the wall like a good little boy. Jack
ReplyDeleteHappy role play works for both of you. thanks for writing. Red
DeleteI'm not sure that spanking has totally eradicated a specific behavior, but the frequency of certain behaviors has dropped a lot. The hardest problems for me to break are things that, by their very nature, involve not thinking or not paying attention. Being careless about certain things. Not ensuring that the garage door really closed when I come inside has been a repeated problem. Not locking the front door when I leave the house. Those sorts of things. Sometimes, I simply forget.
ReplyDeleteI find that spanking is sometimes more effective in getting me to do things than getting me to NOT do things. For example, my wife has a thing about pushing chairs in after leaving the table. It was a big pet peeve, and she got angrier and angrier about my failure to do it. But, once she started spanking for it, I now seldom forget to do it.
It does sound like your wife is getting very diligent at attacking a problem until it really does go away. I'm sure that kind of dedication to the goal makes it much more likely to succeed.
I doubt spanking can ever totally remove a behavior, but being spanked ASAP after the behavior will work wonders for you remembering. We have few rules, but Cindy may be moving to correcting other behaviors she does not like, with my full approval. (I do not desire to do things she dislikes.) Red PS: Even though I am logged in, any attempt at using my blog name etc, has my post lost) so I have to respond as anonymous. bottoms up Red.
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